Yesterday late-afternoon, Tim's parents (who, by the way, have been wonderfully supportive of me in all sorts of ways) picked Crosby up for "Tim's weekend". For the time being when Tim has Crosby for the weekend they stay at his parent's house because Tim's living arrangement (staying at a friend's house) isn't all that conducive for an active (okay, very active) 2- year- old. As they were driving away I thought "Really?". This is really my life now? Because you want to be single and you discount our marriage vows "because we were only 21 and 22 years old"? Because you don't value me, Crosby and our family enough to work at this relationship I just have to deal? Fascinating the way that works....
Now, just to be clear I do not stay at home and cry the weekend away after these exchanges (however tempting that has been). I very intentionally make plans to avoid that scenario. So, last night it was Ethiopian food at a little diner with women from my small group. Today will be a jaunt into Elkhart for a massage at a massage school were they are offered by students at a very affordable rate. After that? I have lots to work on at home but I may take a cruise over to Shipshewana. My sweet parents are coming late this afternoon for an overnight, which is always a treat. I will leave you with a quote that I read and re-read right now.
"Allow Events to Change You: You have to be willing to grow. Growth is different from something that happens to you. You produce it. You live it. The prerequisites for growth: the openness to experience events and the willingness to be changed by them."
Bruce Mau, designer (from ''An Incomplete Manifesto for Growth'')
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I had to create a blog for my memoir writing Creative Nonfiction class for this semester, so I can comment on your blog whether you want me to or not! :-)
ReplyDeleteI think this is a really good idea, to use a blog. And thanks for sending it to me.
This quote is great and is exactly what you're doing--you seem very willing to grow and that's key.
Also, on a more humorous note I thought you were actually going to go on a cruise to Shipshewana and was wondering what body of water you'd be traveling on.